Whether or not to invite kids to your wedding is a decision that can end friendships and divide families.
For the brides who decide that they DON’T want kids at their big day, they can be made to feel like they need to defend their decision.
“We can only invite a certain number of guests.”
“The caterer doesn’t ‘do’ chicken nuggets.”
“It’s a late ceremony.”
“WE JUST DON’T LIKE KIDS”
If you don’t want to invite kids to your wedding, there’s absolutely no reason why should have to explain yourself.
As a mum herself, SFTW's editor, Georgia Tyler, explains why she'd prefer you NOT to invite her kids to your wedding… especially if you don't have any little ones yourself.
It’s your day.
If you want 22 bridesmaids, burger and chips for dinner, or the Friends theme tune for your first dance, and no kids allowed... do it. Who am I to dictate what your special day looks like? I completely understand if you want an adult-only affair with no little people running round, causing mischief and creating an incredible amount of noise before, during and after the ceremony.
I don’t want him to upstage you.
I’m not being funny, but my 2 year old boy is pretty damn cute. Once we get him in a little suit and shoes that matches his daddy’s and let him loose to jump around the dance floor, all eyes and cameras will be on him. I mean, you. It’s totally your day ;)
It’ll keep your guest list (and budget) in check.
If you let all of your friends and family bring their mini-me’s, your head count and budget will spiral out of control. The dance floor will begin to resemble the ball pit at Charlie Chalk’s and forget about being able to hear the vows over the little voices shouting out “Mummy, I need a wee” or “I’m booooooored”. Oh, and be prepared for your £30 a head kids dinners to be spat out and left.
Nobody really wants to supervise him.
It’s impossible to hold a wriggly baby/toddler/child and a glass of pinot grigio at the same time. Not only will the wine get spilled (or the baby dropped) but there’ll always be somebody giving you the eye for having a drink while you’re supposed to be a responsible adult looking after a child. As for family members or friends who say they’d help you out on the day, they are too busy living it up on the dance floor having a wail of a time. And so they should be!
I get a rare night out.
I spend most of my day dragging my son away from plug sockets and putting sticks in his mouth. I rarely get an opportunity to get glammed up and enjoy a night out with my man and my friends. I’ll jump at any chance I get!
For my bride to be friends who ARE inviting children to their wedding, that’s cool too! Grayson say’s thanks for the invite… but he’ll be staying at Nanny’s ;)
Georgia (and Grayson) x
p.s. the pic below is of the last wedding we went to WITH Grayson when he was 1 year old. The fake smile says it all...